The Findom Addiction Checklist

If you are asking yourself the question “Am I addicted to findom?”, you may find it helpful to answer for yourself these twelve questions. Addicts in recovery in F.A.A. have found them indicative for the issues they experienced.

These questions are no substitute for diagnosis and should not be your definitive source in deciding whether you have a problem with findom. As such we can only suggest that, if you answer yes to most of these questions, you seek professional and/ or community help.

Each question is followed by an example – this is no more than an example; your
experience may only be along the same lines. Try to take your time with each question,
asking it yourself twice. The more honest you are with yourself, the more helpful the
results will be to you.

1. Have I tried stopping or cutting back on my expenses in findom, and have I been unsuccessful thus far?
   Promised myself multiple times “this was the last time”.
2. Do I often spend more while engaging in findom than I intended to?
   Promised myself I’d spend only ‘x’ because I needed the money to get by until I got paid.
3. Have I neglected my responsibilities at work, as a family member or friend, or at school due to engaging in findom?
   Had only three hours of sleep before the workday started. Was late to meet friends or to pick up the kids.
4. Have I allowed my relationships with loved ones to be at risk as a result of findom activity?
   Shared personal information of loved ones. Have risked exposure to loved ones.
5. Have I had to budget on social activities or basic necessities due to my spending in findom?
   Not chipped in on an evening with friends. Unable to buy presents. Changing your grocery list to less expensive options.
6. Have my expenses in findom led to taking out loans or credit cards?
   Took out successive payday loans and juggled multiple credit cards.
7. Do I hide my behaviour in findom from the ones closest to me?
   Deleted chats or browsing history, kept my phone away from my partner, made excuses for expenses or not having money.
8. Have I continued engaging in findom after I noticed it was causing me harm, or even found it even more tempting then?
   Eroticized debt. Expressed genuine desire to stop to someone who was findomming me.
9. Has my behaviour in findom over time increased in expenditure, levels of immorality and risk?
   Homewrecking used to be repulsive to me, now it excites me. This time last year I spent only x in one night, now it’s triple that.
10. Do I feel socially awkward or have trouble connecting with people after I have been active in findom?
    After having engaged in findom: I feel looked at, an outcast; I have trouble opening up and standing up for myself.
11. Have I tried changing my behaviour towards ‘lesser harms’ but ended up in findom?
    Doomscrolling, endlessly checking social media ultimately led me back to findom.
12. Is findom my response to stressful life events?
    A death in the family or worries about job security led me to see no other option than to engage in findom.
    

If your answers made you feel you need to do something and got you worried, never worry alone; contact a mental health professional or reach out to support groups.